*THE* Looming Question on My Mind
When I was a little kid, I remember going to stores with my Mom and Dad pointing at EVERYTHING and just saying, “I want that!” Wait. Who am I kidding, I still do that. =) BUT…when you’re a kid, it always feels like you’ll just DIE if you don’t get that new shirt, video game, or piece of jewelry. At least that’s how I always felt. (Please tell me you did too – I really don’t want to feel abnormal here haha.) Well, as I mentioned, I haven't exactly outgrown this lovely trait but I can say that I have really worked towards trying to be more patient and less, "GIVE THIS TO ME RIGHT NOW." It works only sometimes. Hey, I never said I was perfect. =)
Sigh. It's so much easier to know what you want when it's materialistic. I see a dress in the store. It's cute. I buy it. So easy!
But as I was watching the season finale of The Hills tonight (don't judge!), Kristin said something along the lines, "all these really great things are happening to my friends, but what about me? What do I want?"
I think about that ALL THE TIME. What in the WORLD do I want? The scariest part about that question, to me, is how ginormous the possibilities are that could answer it. Do I want to travel, move, go back to school, get married, have babies, become a chef? I mean it's not even a matter of HOW these things would ever happen because I need to answer the WHAT first. Things of this nature are so beyond the scope of "GIVE THIS TO ME RIGHT NOW," that I hardly even know what to do with myself or that looming question.
I was reading one my newest, favorite blogs the other day, Life After College, when I stumbled on a post titled, "Serendipity & The Art of Being Alone." Jenny writes about how she went to NYC for work but didn't even tell anyone she was going. She was telling us of all the fabulous things she did while in NYC, when I saw her use the words, "life checklist." It was, of course, linked and I, of course, clicked it. When it opened, it was this huge spreadsheet of all these amazing things she wanted to do with her life. Big goals, little goals, you name it - it was there. I guess you could call this a "bucket list" but ehhhh I really don't like that phrase mainly because it makes me think about Jack Nicholson and frankly, I'd rather not.
So anyway, I've decided that I'm going to actually take a couple weeks and make one myself. How am I going to know what I want if I don't actually sit down and try to figure it out? And I *know* I'm not the only one with this question on my mind so I want to challenge and encourage you to do the same. Take some time to really sit down and think about this question. Start a checklist (*ahem* not bucket list) of all the things you want in life. Because really, if you don't know where you want to go, how are you going to get ANYWHERE?















Comments
The answer is ... there isn't one answer. you're an individual with many facets. The things you want will be a reflection or implementation of one (or more) of these facets. It's ok that you don't have the answers right now. Some things haven't been revealed to you yet. Some things will take a while to accomplish. Some things will change as you discover others. i use 43things.com to keep track of the goals i want to accomplish. Then i review the list once in a while. whatever seems most interesting to me at that moment, is what i work on. There are some goals that i probably won't complete, but that's ok. Gotta start somewhere. The trick is not to over think. Pick something and try it. You might not like it, and decide you do not want that thing anymore. That's ok. learning and adapting are essential. i hope that helps.
28 July 2009
2 days 11 hours
Great insight, Andrew. Thank you! I am trying to grasp my head around things needing more time and discovering certain things that may lead to discovering others. I will definitely check into 43things.com. And I agree, you definitely have to start somewhere! Thanks for your thoughts =)
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